The first day at nursery is an important milestone in a child's life. It is often a moment filled with emotions, for both parents and young children.
At Les Petits Tournesols, we know that starting nursery is not simply a matter of enrollment. It is a transition that takes time, attentiveness and a great deal of gentleness.
A new step for the child and their family
For a child, arriving at nursery means discovering a new environment: new faces, new sounds, new smells, new rhythms and other children around them.
Even when the nursery is welcoming and warm, this novelty may require an adjustment period. Some children observe a great deal at first. Others cry at the moment of separation. Others settle in quickly, then realise a little later that their parent has left.
All these reactions are normal. Every child experiences this step in their own way.
Key points
- The first day is a transition, not a test to pass.
- Every child reacts differently.
- Parents' emotions matter too.
- Trust is built gradually.
Preparing your child before they arrive
Before the first day, it can be helpful to talk simply to your child about nursery. Even very young children sense changes and understand a great deal through tone of voice, gestures and the habits of the adults around them.
Parents can explain that their child will discover a new place, meet other children and be looked after by adults who will take care of them during the day.
There is no need for lengthy explanations. Simple phrases, repeated calmly, are often enough to set a first reassuring point of reference.
The moment of separation
The parent's departure is often the most sensitive moment. It is better to say goodbye clearly, even if the child cries. Leaving without warning may seem easier at the time, but it can make the separation harder for the child to understand.
A short, calm and reassuring goodbye helps the child understand what is happening. The parent can say they will be back later, give a hug and then hand the child over to the team.
Crying does not mean the child will not adapt. It often expresses the emotion of the moment. The team is there to acknowledge this emotion, reassure the child and gently help them into their day.
An important point
The separation should remain clear for the child. Saying goodbye, even when it is difficult, helps them build a clear and reassuring point of reference.
The importance of familiar objects
A comfort toy, a dummy, a small blanket or a familiar object can help the child connect home and nursery.
These reference points are precious, especially at the beginning. They can reassure the child during the morning welcome, during a tired moment or at nap time.
At nursery, we respect these needs. The aim is not to remove what reassures the child too quickly, but to gently support them towards greater security and independence.
Observing before joining in
Some children need to observe for a long time before joining in. They watch other children playing, listen to the adults, discover the space and find their bearings.
This observation phase is important. It allows the child to understand their new environment and decide, at their own pace, when they feel ready to join in.
The team supports the child without pressure. Trust is often built in those small moments when the child feels respected.
The role of the team
The team's role is to welcome the child as a whole: their emotions, habits, needs, rhythm and way of connecting with others.
The professionals observe, reassure, offer, support and gradually build a relationship with the child. This relationship is not always built in a single day. It develops through repetition, presence and security.
Exchanges with parents are also essential. They help the team get to know the child: their sleep patterns, meals, habits, small rituals and what reassures them.
And for the parents?
The first day at nursery is also a milestone for parents. Entrusting your child to others can be emotional, sometimes difficult, even when the choice of nursery has been fully considered.
These emotions are legitimate. Parents also need time to build trust, understand how the nursery works and find their own points of reference.
Clear communication with the team often helps navigate this transition more peacefully.
A gradual settling-in
When possible, a gradual settling-in period allows the child to discover nursery step by step. They may first come for a shorter time, then gradually stay longer.
This progression helps the child understand that nursery is a place where they are welcomed, cared for and then reunited with their parents.
The aim is not to rush, but to build lasting trust.
Growing with confidence
The first day at nursery marks the beginning of a new adventure — an adventure made up of discoveries, connections, small steps forward and new routines.
At Les Petits Tournesols, we support every child with care, respecting their rhythm and their story.
Because a successful start at nursery does not mean a separation without emotion. It means above all that the child gradually feels safe enough to discover, play, build connections and grow.
Frequently asked questions about the first day at nursery
How can I prepare my child for their first day at nursery?
Talk simply about nursery in the days before, using words suited to your child's age. Short phrases, repeated calmly, are usually enough to set a first point of reference. If visits took place during the settling-in period, remind your child of them.
Should I bring a comfort object or familiar toy?
Yes, it is recommended. A comfort toy, dummy, blanket or familiar object can help the child maintain an emotional connection with home during the day. Label it with the child's name and let the team know at drop-off.
What should I do if my child cries at separation?
Crying at separation is normal and expected — it expresses the emotion of the moment, not a failure to adapt. The team is trained to welcome this emotion and reassure the child. Saying goodbye clearly, briefly and with confidence helps the child understand you will return.
Does the first day last all day?
Generally not. The first days are usually shorter, with the duration gradually extended according to the child's pace and the settling-in schedule agreed with the nursery.
Can parents receive updates during the day?
Yes. The Les Petits Tournesols teams use the Kidola app to share information about each child's day. A phone call is also possible — the team will guide you on the most appropriate moments so as not to disrupt routines.
What should I do if the first day goes badly?
A difficult first day does not determine what comes next. Talk to the team at pick-up: together you can adjust the pace or duration of the following days. Settling in is a process, not an immediate result.
For any question, you can contact us.
